Why Mothers Need Care Too: The Health Impact of Putting Yourself Last
You give your best to everyone else ~ but what’s left for you?
When mothers consistently come last on their own list, there’s a cost, not just emotionally, but physically. And it’s time we start talking about it.
In my naturopathic practice, I meet women who are exhausted not because they’re doing something wrong, but because they’ve been holding everything together for too long without support.
This post is here to remind you: Your health matters, too!
The Invisible Load of Modern Motherhood
Motherhood today is more than nappies and lunchboxes. It’s emotional triage, mental logistics, and being the go-to for every question and crisis. Even with supportive partners, the weight of this "invisible load" adds up.
Common signs you may be over-carrying:
Constant fatigue, even after sleep
Brain fog and forgetfulness
Mood swings or low resilience
Digestive changes or hormonal shifts
These aren’t signs of weakness, they’re signals for you to take notice of. And these signals deserve care, not dismissal.
How Stress Affects a Mother’s Body
When stress becomes chronic, your nervous system doesn’t get a chance to reset. That can lead to:
Cortisol dysregulation (hello anxiety and belly fat!)
Poor sleep due to melatonin disruption
Suppressed immunity (hello every bug going around!)
Hormonal imbalances affecting your menstrual cycle, libido, and mood
This isn’t just about "managing stress." It’s about honouring your biology and understanding how the motherload affects your whole system.
Prioritising Yourself Isn’t Selfish ~ It’s Strategic!
When you’re thriving, your whole household benefits. That’s not just a cliché, it’s actually a ripple effect:
Your regulated nervous system supports your child’s own nervous system regulation
Better immunity = fewer sick days
When you have more energy, you are able to be more present with your kids and family enjoying life
Clearer mind = more intentional parenting
Small, consistent self-support creates lasting wellbeing, for you and your family.
Gentle First Steps Toward Reclaiming Care
Start small. Start kind. Here are 3 ways you can begin today:
Name your needs. Even silently. Awareness is step one.
Create a 5-minute ritual just for you (a cup of tea alone counts).
Say yes to help, and mean it!
And if you need a little structure, my free Stress Email Series was made for mums like you.
You’re Allowed to Be Well
You don’t have to hit burnout to deserve support. Your wellness is worth investing in, not as an afterthought, but as a foundation. Because when mothers are nourished, families thrive.
👉 Ready to take one step today?
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If you're ready to take charge of your health and would like personalised, evidence-based support, I'd love to hear from you. Whether you're curious about how naturopathy can help or you're ready to dive into a tailored plan, let's connect.
You can book a free 15-minute discovery call to see if we're the right fit, or go ahead and schedule your initial consultation to get started.
Your health journey matters, and you don’t have to do it alone!
